Philemon 1:10

Onesimus. Meaning, “useful.” The delicacy of Paul’s tenderness in introducing the particular problem of Onesimus is revealed in the Greek where the name of Onesimus is reserved until the last of the sentence. Literally, the verse reads: “I beseech you concerning my own child whom I have begotten in these bonds, Onesimus.” Philemon is gently led into the inner chamber of Paul’s heart and thus induced to regard Onesimus as the apostle does. Without the insertion of a statement of Paul’s own tender relationship with Onesimus, Philemon would merely be reminded of all the former misconduct, disobedience, and possible avarice manifested by Onesimus in times past (v. 11).

Paul here uses a strong possessive pronoun which enhances the tender bond existing between him and Onesimus. He writes, literally, “my own son.” Paul thus appealed to Philemon’s heart before his eye would come to the name of his former slave. Because of Philemon’s high regard for Paul he would be anxious to render every possible aid to please him. Whatever the apostle strongly loved, Philemon would not lightly dismiss.

Philemon would notice the parallel between his experience (v. 19) and that of Onesimus — both were “sons” of Paul, his spiritual offspring. Paul often called his converts “beloved children” (see on 1 Corinthians 4:14, 15, 17; 1 Timothy 1:2, 18).

Begotten in my bonds. There is no indication here as to how Paul had become acquainted with Onesimus, nor a hint as to why or in what manner Onesimus had come to Paul. In the mysterious working of Providence they were brought together — Paul, who overlooked no opportunities for service, and Onesimus, who courageously responded.