Philemon 1:13

I would. Greek boulomai, “to desire,” “to wish.” Paul might personally wish that “profitable” Onesimus would remain in Rome as the apostle’s personal attendant. For an aged worker, worn by years of extraordinary service, the personal attentions of a devoted friend could not be measured in money or equaled in any other way. However, though Paul would lose the comfort of Onesimus’ presence, he would be inwardly rewarded with the successful reconciliation of his two friends. Consequently Paul would not allow his personal needs to interfere with the more important business of a spiritual triumph, or presume upon the rights of Philemon, legal owner of Onesimus.

In thy stead. The apostle tactfully implies that Philemon would consider personal service to Paul as one of life’s highest honors, that if Philemon was able, he himself would be caring for Paul as Onesimus had done. Hence, Philemon not only would rejoice at the gratifying service performed by Onesimus, but would also be grateful that Onesimus was rendering service in his behalf.

Bonds of the gospel. Compare vs. 1,10. Another gentle reminder that though they both served the same Master, Paul was suffering the hardships of a Roman dungeon while Philemon enjoyed the benefits of freedom along with the blessings of Paul’s sacrificial ministry. Philemon’s delicate sense of compassion (vs. 5-7) would quickly grasp his responsibility to his revered friend.